Monday, April 22, 2002

Lifestyle

Work time

Lisa Hough

PRO: Ready for college and world

By Megan Neely
Lewis and Clark

At age 11, I sat at my mother's desk at The Spokesman-Review, gazing blankly into the computer screen and scrambling to form an opinion on the domestication of cougars. My assignment was to write an editorial on the topic, and my deadline was drawing near. Slowly, I began to understand the complexities of my mother's day at work.

Women have traditionally been stereotyped as nurses, secretaries and teachers, so the Ms. Foundation's "Take Our Daughters to Work Day" program originated as a way to introduce girls to a variety of career options. Now, at the beginning of the 21st century, some people think girls no longer need this type of career orientation.

They're wrong. Although women now play a crucial role in the working world, sexist views continue to limit many girls' perspectives. Whether from the media, schools or the general public, girls receive negative messages that limit their sense of self-worth and competence.

Girls continue to be pigeon-holed by stereotypical views of women. A Girls Incorporated study found that 53 percent of girls believe that society views marriage and children as the first priority in a woman's life. Similarly, 56 percent of girls feel that they are expected to "speak softly and not cause trouble."

Evidently many girls don't fully appreciate the empowering messages of the world's female leaders. Take Our Daughters to Work Day is the ideal way to help girls understand they can stand up and define their position in the community, not necessarily as mothers or housewives, but as equals to men.

Growing up, I never missed Take Our Daughters to Work Day. Every year, I would arrive at the newspaper where my mother worked as a features writer. This annual event opened my eyes to the vast number of women in the work force who were conquering obstacles and playing major roles as career-focused individuals. I saw the respect my mother received from her co-workers, and for the first time in my life, I was given the opportunity to express myself through writing.

I always will remember and cherish my experiences with Take Our Daughters to Work Day. The empowering and inspiring effect on girls like myself gives this day its immeasurable impact. Both sons and daughters need to realize all available options.

Celebrate the possibilities that your daughter's life may hold for her and take her to work. When it's my turn to step out into the world, I will embrace my opportunities with the values that my mother taught me.

CON: High school too important to miss

By Kate Carpenter

University High School

A great woman, Eleanor Roosevelt, once spoke these words: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

Roosevelt wanted to leave her listeners with this simple idea: No person -- man or woman -- can be given his or her confidence or have it taken away. Rather, our own labors, our own struggles to overcome obstacles, our own discovery of our potential, are the only means by which we can have faith in our personal achievement. No amount of sappy, encouraging words, self-esteem building conferences or people making us feel "special" can compel us to reach our goals. If we must rely on others for personal confidence, we are never going to be capable of personal success.

Take Our Daughters to Work Day, sponsored by the Ms. Foundation for Women, states its mission on its Web site. It says that the goal of the annual event is "to help girls stay strong and remain confident throughout adolescence. In creating the day, we intended to publicize, celebrate, preserve and reinforce girls' natural strengths and optimism."

But there are several key reasons that Take Our Daughters to Work Day is ineffective, even destructive and offensive.

First, Take Our Daughters to Work Day teaches girls that they are dependent on outside recognition and other people for their ability to succeed. They are subtly conscious of the concept that nothing short of a national day, dedicated to them, will make them capable of achieving their goals. As a result, girls could easily conclude that it is only possible for them to succeed through the intervention of other people.

Second, through movements like Take Our Daughters to Work Day, we declare girls more instable, dependent and less capable of high aspirations and hard work than males.

The Ms. Foundation For Women states that, "As adolescence begins, girls show a significant drop in self-esteem, report a lowered sense of self-worth and describe intense feelings of insecurity about their own judgment and emotions." What adolescent male does not experience the same anxiety? But by forming a national day to promote the abilities of girls, we state that they are less capable than boys of overcoming the strains of adolescence.

Third, the concept of Take Our Daughters to Work Day and the idea that girls need such a program to expand their horizons and be strong and confident reinforces the concept that the only way for a woman to be admired is to engage in a profession. This disregards and even diminishes those admirable women who sacrifice professional opportunities to stay at home and raise their children. An entire generation of girls will grow up believing it is a pathetic aspiration to be a good mother and that professional women should be held in much higher regard.

Take Our Daughters to Work Day also boasts of "exposing girls to new work opportunities," certainly an admirable benefit. But with all the information available at the click of a mouse, it seems irresponsible to take girls out of school to tell them about opportunities they could easily have learned themselves. Instead, girls miss a day at school where they would learn that the most important impact they can have on their futures is to work hard, stay in class and set their minds on reaching their goals. The annual Ms. Foundation event sends the message that girls need an easy way out and teaches the self-centered notion they need a day devoted to building their self-confidence.

While the Ms. Foundation argues that, "girls can take what they learn at work on Thursday and apply it to the classroom on Friday," it is what girls learn in the classroom that they should later apply to real life when they enter the work force.

Despite the admirable intentions of Take Our Daughters to Work Day, the subtle teachings of this national event are detrimental to girls. Girls should be encouraged to stay in school, take full advantage of their educational opportunities, set goals and work hard to attain them. Through their own efforts and ability to work hard, girls will develop confidence. Rather than being taken to work, girls should be encouraged to strive toward their aspirations and get to work themselves.